Mind and Performance
The four people pictured above, are all friends through their work with or for the same global company
and they very generously sent this photograph from South Africa where they met up for a business event.
They have all given their permission for it to be published on this site.
At different times they have all worked individually with me, with the aim of positively affecting their personal performance levels
which were already measurably very high by everyone's standards but their own.
All experienced results that were beyond their expectations and testimonials from them have been included in those published below.
A big "Thank you" goes to them all for their kindness in allowing the use of his photograph
and more importantly, for their trust, and full committment to the coaching process.
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In July 2014 I met Ady through the Johnnie Walker Journey in Scotland. It was on The Journey away from home and harsh reality, that I was able to face feelings like anger, fear and anxiousness. I was at a breaking point in my life, where the build-up of different kinds of trauma over the years resulted in post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and a breakdown that I did not even realize I was going through at the time. At that stage I was confused, I felt isolated from my own feelings. I just knew I was extremely tired, emotional, worked up, fearful and I felt I lost myself. I could not manage stressful situations. Although I have the perfect job and a beautiful family I was burnt out and just could not focus on anything that needed my attention. I was not able to give my best to myself and the people around me anymore. Everything was just too much. I longed for the days where I was focused, organized and planned, where I felt in control, on top of the world, where I was successful and where I could think clearly and make decisions, where I actually made a difference to others.
Ady saw my pain and very gently suggested that I tried emotional therapy called Spectrum, which he had been trained in. We worked through a few sessions whilst I was attending The Journey. It was one of the hardest things I have done, because I had to face the feelings that I was running away from, but I was so desperate to feel “me” again that I was willing to give it my ALL. The best part of the therapy process is that you do not have to share any personal details with the person administering the therapy. Slowly but surely as we progressed linking current feelings to past experiences, the puzzle pieces fell together and I started to understand why I was feeling the way I was. Ady guided me and supported me through it all and a safe and trusted environment. After the first session the weight of the burdens that I have felt for months literally lifted off my shoulders. Slowly but surely the thoughts in my head became clearer, in order and I could think straight again. The fuzziness disappeared and I could “feel” again.
The therapy was such a big success! So much so that since July I have not taken any anti-depressant medication. I am back at work coping in one if the toughest times of the year and I am extremely productive, focused and happy! The layers of sticky negative feelings vanished and was replaced with the old in control and productive me. I am able to LIVE again and it is the best feeling in the world! Until today it is the only therapy that I have tried with a long lasting effect and that have changed my life. I was blessed that Ady took me under his wing and I am grateful for that liberating and life-saving experience. An experience in the heart of Scotland that I will hold forever dear and close to my heart, as this was where my healing and a second chance at happiness began with the help of an angel sent from above.
Thank you Ady.
Marlet - Johannesburg, South Africa
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It now sounds ridiculous, but my daughter had developed what I can only describe as a phobia about going upstairs or downstairs on her own. This had persisted for 2 years from the age of 8. We put it down to divorce and her moving between two new houses, but as soon as it became dark she would not go up the stairs alone if the first floor were empty and neither would she come down the stairs alone if the ground floor were empty. I had to go up before her, close the curtains and put all the lights on in the areas she was going to. A friend had told me about Ady's work and I thought it was worth a shot ,mainly because I didn't want problems for her in the future when I wasn't with her. No amount of reassurance had worked; she wouldn't even nip up the stairs to get a game if she wanted one. I had initially been apprehensive but I asked Ady to see her and she warmed to him immediately. Despite my fears around him being a man, she appeared calm and relaxed and he seemed to make it almost like a game, which she really responded to. He was kind and confident and this transmitted to both of us. After half an hour of working with Ady she was happy to go upstairs alone in the dark. She was so delighted with herself and obviously really proud of her achievement. I was truly amazed, in fact I was flabbergasted and so grateful. I had secretly thought that it was just some form of attention-seeking behaviour which thereore would mean that it would persist despite any efforts Ady could make, but she has never had the problem since and it is as if it were never an issue. I cannot recommend Ady enough and as a Mum, I recognise someone who genuinely likes and communicates excellently with children and my daughter would completely agree. It was money extremely well spent and I would not hesitate to go back with any other problems.
Janet - Devon, UK
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I met Ady while I was on a business conference in Scotland.
He immediately made an impression on me with his warm and caring manner (and good energy).
Travelling the distance from South Africa, I arrived at the conference feeling a little "out of sorts" - ...being far away from my demanding responsibilities back home, it is now simple to say I was on some unconscious level fighting my old trusty fear of disorder and failure.
Ady recognised something in me, and offered a safe environment for a little chat.
I was open to it, and was curious to hear what his practice was about. I had never made the time to see a business coach or personal development practitioner. What this meant was that I had never chosen to invest in "ME".
Before I began the process, I would have described myself as strong. I thought I presented the following characteristics which in my mind were all positives : Organised/Efficient/Independent/Super-Strong/ Successful...
What I didn't realise was that I had constantly been building my strength to protect myself from failure and disappointing those around me.
I wasn't living my life for me. I was not in an optimum state of health. I had all these stories going on in my head and I desperately needed a clean out.
While Ady starting working his process, many new meanings starting popping up for me... strong = armour (why was I constantly protecting myself) efficient = impossible to maintain 24/7 (who was I constantly trying to impress) independent = alienation (why walk alone) and so on and so on.... it was becoming apparent to me that I needed to start stripping down these layers, and ease up a bit. Being super strong in these demanding times is just so exhausting.
This meant going into my sub-conscious and looking for suppressed emotions that I had been too "layered up" to feel... or too scared to address.
We worked the process, never feeling like I had to openly discuss any details with Ady. He was patient and completely present.
I felt a fundamental shift that day.
I definitely did some internal healing which is going to set me up for a happier way forward.
Thank you Ady, I am grateful that we met, and I truly do see your help as a gift from above. Thank you for honestly wanting to help people like me and for showing us the investments we make in ourselves, will be the first step to improving the lives of everyone around us.
With love and appreciation,
Shona - Cape Town, RSA
PS: And when I left the room I felt lighter, extremely energised, excited, free from trapped anger, fear, anxiety, and blocked feelings.
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I first met Ady at my workplace, the type of person who instantly makes an impression with his upbeat character.
Family problems due to my Father's infidelity over many years had affected me deeply over a long period of time. Running alongside this I entered into a marriage which I knew from the beginning was not right,but couldn't quite work out the reason. I tried hard to make things work and protect my two children. I was experiencing continued bouts of high anxiety. Medication from the doctor only served to mask the problem and did not address the root cause.
During 2014 a series of events occurred which prompted me to question what was happening within my marriage. I was feeling totally overloaded emotionally,my body felt like it was being gripped in a vice due to the high state of anxiety.
Ady came into work and during conversation recognised my distress and advised me to make contact.This proved to be a major turning point.Ady explained about Spectrum but as we were at opposite ends of the country the sessions were done via Skype. Ady completely put me at ease and more importantly I instantly knew I could trust him. Yes these were quite draining, tears flowed and at one point I was physically sick. This was purely as a result of unlocking unwanted & distorted emotions which had been deeply engrained. The pieces of the jigsaw were falling into place,everything began to unravel like a tangled ball of wool.Following 3 sessions which in total lasted 11 hours I felt calmer,lighter, I felt alive,my thought processes so much clearer. At work I felt myself periodically drifting off which Ady explained was just a period of integration and quite normal.
My life changed dramatically. I realised that I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship. Controlled and manipulated over a period of 24 years, I took the decision to leave my husband. I found the inner strength as a direct result of the Spectrum sessions. I am now living instead of existing. I can look forward to each day,to making my own decisions. I have a future, it is the most amazing feeling.When I told Ady he had saved my life ,he very modestly replied that I had done it myself, he had simply provided the tools at the right time.
Ady, I am eternally grateful to you.
Kay - Morayshire, UK
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I recently attended a training course in Scotland where I was extremely fortunate to come into contact with Ady Cole .
In chatting to Ady he picked up on things I didn’t even realise were awry in my life and offered to spend some time with me to see if he could help sort them out. Here I realised Ady is blessed with many abilities. Immediately what springs to mind is the ability to recognise a lost soul, this is just one of the things that meant so much to to me on this journey. There is so much more… words are difficult to describe and to express the gratitude is even harder. Ady created the space to trust, feel safe and express feelings I probably would never had the ability to admit to myself. So Liberating. I am one of those people that do not find it easy to admit something is not quite right, especially in my personal life and I would certainly be the one of the last people to seek help. Ady was able to recognise this and make the next step very easy for me. If you feel like you are merely existing and you want to live again, I would certainly recommend taking some time to chat to Ady and by doing so, grabbing the opportunity to awakening the person that you can and should be. I can say from first hand knowledge, the change in the way you feel is virtually immediate, in fact, that is an understatement. People recognized the change in me straight away – I myself left the session feeling lighter and couldn’t wait for the next day. The following morning I noticed myself doing and looking forward to things I would have normally postponed or tried to find away to get out of completely. I realise now I had been missing out on so much – but not any more.
If you have ever felt or are feeling that you are merely existing or simply going through the motions. If you want to feel like you are living again and are wanting to unleash your full potential, I would have no hesitation in recommending you give Ady a call.
Ady - I will be eternally indebted.
Thank you.
Dave Evans - Zimbabwe
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