Mind and Performance
Children
Children like adults can struggle occasionally.
Whether it be a fear of something, a phobia, extreme behaviour, difficult reactions in the sporting arena, lack or energy, extreme lethargy, obsessive compulsive rituals and so on, emotion will be involved. Subconscious coaching processes can have a huge effect when used in a comprehensive way..
Where children are struggling emotionally, or displaying behaviours that are causing them problems, these are always understandable and should be looked at in relation to the context and the system they are in. The problem is seldom with the child alone but with the system. This is not about fault but about looking at what is happening around them making some adjustments and relaxing as far as possible.
Behavioural problems will resolve themselves in most cases, if viewed in context and as natural and understandable and if adjustments are made.
For the sake of your child, please avoid searching for 'diagnoses', that will lead to treatment plans and potentially even medication, tempting though this may seem. This system is flawed and condemns your child to being labelled as having a condition and this will only exacerbate the problem in the longer term.
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it may be that you have already been down that route or are avoiding it. If you have and not been successful then please speak. If you are avoiding it then my advice before spending money on interventions is to read the book Searching for Normal by Dr Sami Timimi.
Dr Timimi is an NHS Consultant Psychiatrist and Psychotherapist of 40 + years experience who will show you the real background and statistics around diagnoses and medication.
If you would rather not read this book and would rather talk then I am happy to do so. If you have read the book and still think or feel that the situation requires some external assistance then I can offer that, in a way that is useful rather than compounding the problem.
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If your child already has a diagnosis and you are not happy, then please speak. If they are on medication then definitely read the book mentioned above. No one reading that explanation of the real statistics around medication will ever medicate their children (or themselves) again. Again I refer to Dr Timimi.
If it is decided that help is still required, rapport is always the key. Establishing trust and gaining your child's permission is naturally the first priority and then making the processes suit the child is, in my experience, the best way to achieve success.
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Where the child is under 16 years old, a chaperone is required.
Parents who are open-minded, understand that they may possibly be involved in a child's behavioural pattern and after discussion, they often choose to lead the way by engaging in the processes first. Sometimes this is enough.....
